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...it allows space for the individuals to be the protagonists rather than the objects
...because sometimes silence is golden and silent interiors contribute to that
...in the era of multimedia and everything published /aired/ blogged/ twittered/ stated in FB/ shared in any possible way
...keeping the balance is hard...but so incredibly necessary
...extrospection is needed as much as introspection, otherwise we tend to share just for the mere purpose of sharing...resulting often in.... not really having much to share...( reaching to the point ---> Attention needed no matter what )
As much as extrospection, in common words observing ( to put it in a kind manner ) what others do, is so often noticed and exercised, there seems to be a rather big absence of introspection, meaning , observing ourselves, personalities and behavior.
But to achieve that, we must be willing to see all parts of ourselves, parts that are often unpleasant, small, wrong, terrifying sometimes, along with all the greatness that each of us carries.
And there comes the point ,where lots of people, stop, turn their backs and simply say "I don't need to do that", "I have already done it".
Well, should this be done, it means that it actully becomes a process of our daily realities, looking inside, taking care of our own gardens, as much as we look, admire, get in spired ( and at worst get envious) of other people's gardens, or advise them about how their flowers will grow, when our own are actually not blooming at all.
A possible way it manifests is through the actual speech of people...somehow eventhough we may be speaking about ourselves, there is no need to start every single sentence with "I", "me", "mine" or point all the arrows to us ( look at me/ hear me / love me/ admire me / be jealous of me...)...the actions are to be emphasized...and there is a realisation that we are just simply, another human existence in this world.
...we don't take ourselves more seriously than we should....and we have managed to refine the notion of being ambitious...it's more rare than commom though, among well known people ( and not only), and this is just so sad.....and to bring this post to a closure with a positive feeling...after having stated in a way what un/de -inspires me, here is what I'm trully inspired from (and also try to achieve)
-> taking small steps
-> taking time to establish and be established
-> sharing for a reason
-> offering inspiration as a means of balancing for the inspiration often received from
others, having something new to say, to show, to give
-> quiet strength
-> people with effortlessly sparkling personalities
-> depth in character
-> examining and tasting before taking a decision/ judging /accepting / turning down
-> being connected to life, to its reality, to its truth
-> learning and people who devote time and effort into doing that
-> being enthusiastic but rather not shouting it
-> whichever expression of emotion comes from within
-> genuine creativity
-> people who are mostly in touch with themselves ( this doesn't mean that they talk
about it , rather than act like it)
-> true qualities
After a huge revolution in sex equalitity and women pursuing madly carriers, very often for the mere purpose of just proving themselves, rather than actually loving what they do in many cases, it seems that a new era has begun since a few years.
Thanks to this amazing, magic, modern tool of internet ( which like everything powerful can be used in many ways....creative ones, uncreative ones, destructive ones, senseless time consuming ones, and the list goes on and on) many people ( especially women) have the ability to combine work with spending longer hours at home, than they would do, should they have to be at their jobs.
Eventhough a jod is a means of earning money, it is of such great importance that it also fullfils a person's life in a meaningful way. There are a lot of women ( myself being one of them) who eventhough are part of a "modern" society, enjoy a more traditional role as women. That of a person who brings all the beauty in a man's life and their living surrounding.
There is nothing small about that. Actually, in today's crazy lifestyles, where marriages take place only to fall apart after some time or the first difficulties and when relationships are based on anything else but honesty, true affection and understanding or even physical attraction, a woman's role is rather big and important in a different way.
Men are more practical beens and getting in touch with their feelings is not exactly a piece of a cake. It is rather more applicable that a woman does the work for two on the emotional level. This needs time, devotion and patience.
Let me clear out here, that there is absolutely no doubt that there DO are women who enjoy having a carrier, do it in a very succesful manner and at the same time run successful relationships and families.
Just poiniting out here, that women who decide to work from home, deserve the same respect with the ones who leave home to do it. And had it not been for the female revolution a few decades ago, this would have never been an issue.
But as everything in life, every new thing needs to be evaluated through time and it has been proven that a tremendous decrease has recently taken place in the quality of relationships and family life.
Women have lost their selves, got confused with the power they aquired, only to make men also exactly as confused and actually frustrared and running away from any kind of commitment. They are not to be blamed. Actually it us, women ,who need to realise that our worth does not depend on being able to do or to earn as much as men do but
on being the best we can for ourselves. Not few are also the cases of women earning more than their male partners, by running their own home based businesses.
Nature is so, that women are blessed with the gift of having the capability to carry and give birth to children, and eventhough there is nothing wrong in men raising children, it is simply the most natural thing for a woman to spend some time raising their child or children.
Thankfully, there are ways nowdays that women can be productive & offer themselves to society and to their families, in manners different that would not have been able before the discovery of Interenet.
It enables millions of crafters and independent artists to sell their items, should they wish to online, either via their own shop or by participating in universal independent artists & crafters platforms such as Etsy, which holds a few million members worldwide, making it the biggest one.
Well known artists and people who have managed to earn their living ( and actually a good one ) are members of such online societies. And most of them can also be found on Flickr ( the biggest photography pool on earth) where their creations and often lifestyles are shared as a means of offering inspiration.
So, I 'll slowly bring this looooong post to an end by saying that should we actually want to go together with our times and not against them, it is about time we realised, that there have already decades passsed from " female revolution" and that being modern nowdays has a new meaning.
There is an increased need for returning to the rooots, whatever that means, ranging from a shift in our inner selves, to returning home, to being more close to nature.
And if an earth that is facing environmental disaster, people who are more and more depressed in consuming societies who offer everything and families and relationships who fall apart like sandcastles is not the proof and not enough of an alarm to wake us up, then, what is?
It is so much easier to simply follow our nature than to fight it and go against it.
Human sadness arises not because of who we are but because of not allowing ourselves to become who we trully are.
And as much as simple this might sound, it needs a great deal of attention, care and patience to reach to the point of understanding it and then realising it.
The reward is a quality in life that simply money cannot buy.
And it's certain, that should we all discover and cultivate our inner talents, and decide to offer them to society, more than enough money to support our lives will come our ways.....and should there be much more than we actually need, we should always remember that there are billions of people, so much more unfortunate than us, who need our help. Because happiness & blissfulness only make sense - and are actually real - when they can be shared.
Blissfulness is :
opening your apartment door to step out and finding on the doormat a packet waiting for you.
It happens that our postman is a mostly kind man, who gets into the trouble of coming up the forth floor, eventhough there is not typical need and despite the fact that there is place enough in the mailbox.
It appears that whenever he sees a packet from a personal address, that comes from abroad, such as when my family sends a packet from Greece or amazing Madhu from Malaysia for example, he is kind enough to deliver it upstairs, without ringing the bell, out of discretness, just to make sure that it is safe and delivered, as if he understands the precious messages that it carries.
So a blissful day begins, when you realise that there are also so very kind people living in this world and actually in your immediate environment.
A blissful day goes on, when you recieve a present from a most special person, who went into the trouble of sending you another present, despite the fact, that she already did so for your birthday, for reasons her dear heart only knows why. As I trully don't know what I 've done to deserve that. But I do accept it ,with so much gratefullness, because once again this gesture made me feel so special and so loved, in a way I 'll always remember and cherish.
So, my dear Madhu, there I am,standing, holding the raw silk, in form of a wonderful pillowcase and wood, in form of two napkin rings for him and her, hoping that the picture can capture just a little tiny bit of the happiness you brought me.
Thank you so much....as words are probably poor to express.
It is this quality, that completely transforms our lives and one that must be cultivated in order to be understood.
Love is naturally not only romantic love, but a vast essence.
Love is undestanding
Love is acceptance
Love is forgiveness
Love is actually listening
Love is making space for a different perspective, without necessarily needing to adopt it
Love is respect
Love is setting boundaries and
Love is accepting the limits others set
Love is adjustment
Love is accepting that in life there is both happiness & pain
Love is the power to change
" I love you but I cannot ", is a contradiction.
" I love this/that/the world/myself, but I have no time/money/courage to support it, is another.
Loving somebody, something, ourselves = doing anything possible in our power to support this saying, no matter how difficult, no matter how hard, no matter how much inconvenience and pain must be gone through, often overcoming our own selves.
After years of having written these love quotes on these mirrors, back in 2004, it's now more than ever, that I actually understand and experience what I myself had written as aspirations of what love is, when my reality and everyday life were definetely not bad, but still wholeness and fullfilness wasn't acheived.
I hope that now is the start of a probably another half of my life ( I'm turning 35 these days ),when I can do anything possible in my daily life to experience and spread love.
Here and now, more than ever, my heart is at home and seeing the world through the eyes of love is a possibility.
My own shortcomings, failures and imperfections had to be accepted,
Occasional unfairness and cause of pain had also to be accepted and let go....
and it is always a daily decision, the way in which to experience the world, often not the easiest one to take, as the world can be and is often hard.
Still the only meaningfull way to live is through practising and experiencing love...
If we people are to be determinded by something, it is our experiences and our feelings...rather than possesions....and life is too precious to be wasted in being bitter and complaining, sitting with our hands crossed, only to move them, in order to point our finger to somebody else who is supposedly responsible for our unhappiness.
Taking the responsibility of our own existences is love.
Devoted to my dear friend and therapist Vali, who has supported me in every possible way these past seven years, into my personal quest of finding Love.
It's a blessing to have met you.
For a more complete and detailed view of the quotes written on the mirrors, you may visit this set of pictures.
